anger

nationality

American

occupation / innovator as

psychologist

Swedish

is a tool for change when it challenges one to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others. . . .If, however, we do not use our anger to define ourselves clearly in every important relationship we are in-- and manage our feelings as they arise-- no one else will assume this responsibility for us.Harriet Lerner

is neither legitimate nor illegitimate, meaningful nor pointless. Anger simply is. To ask, 'is my anger legitimate'' Is similar to asking, 'do I have the right to be thirsty'' after all, I just had a glass of water fifteen minutes ago. Surely my thirst is not legitimate. And besides, what's the point of getting thirsty when I can't get anything to drink now, anyway'' Anger is something we feel. It exist for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we

Anger is neither legitimate nor illegitimate, meaningful nor pointless. Anger simply is. To ask, 'Is my anger legitimate'' is similar to asking, 'Do I have the right to be thirsty' After all, I just had a glass of water fifteen minutes ago. Surely my thirst is not legitimate. And besides, what's the point of getting thirsty when I can't get anything to drink now, anyway'' Anger is something we feel. It exist for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel-- and certainly our anger is no exception. Harriet Lerner

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