socialization, n.All

Socialization (n.) splits ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠a child into a spontaneous center and an inhibiting one — like teaching him to walk by lifting his feet with his own hands.

Socialization (n.) at ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠elite schools is largely refinement: the right clothes, the right port, and polite talk that hints you could discuss serious things if you were vulgar enough to.