Selfishness (n.) is asking others to live as one wishes to live.
Selfishness (n.) is not living your life as you wish to live it. Selfishness is wanting others to live their lives as you wish them to.
Selfishness (n.) is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.
Selfishness (n.) always aims at creating around it an absolute uniformity of type.
Selfishness (n.) is, grossly, to require of one's neighbour that he should think in the same way, and hold the same opinions. It is not selfish to think for oneself.
Selfishness (n.) would be a red rose wanting all the other flowers in the garden to be both red and roses—that would be horribly selfish; wanting to be a red rose is not.