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is central to the practice of psychoanalysis, not as a philosophical or theoretical formulation, but rather, as a project residing in the contact with things in their flux and reflux in work, acts, and dreams.

Freud's genius, he noted, was not that of a philosophical or theoretical formulation... instead, it resided in 'his contact with things, his polymorphous perception of work, of acts, of dreams, of their flux and reflux'... thus, his thought was sovereign 'in his listening to the confused noises of a life.' The task of both contemporary psychoanalysis and existential philosophy or ontology was to listen to these baffling sounds. . . . (merleau-ponty, 1961 pp. 84-87) (Dallmayr 1993: 251) -

is entering that spatiality by which, at the same time, I am penetrated, for it opens up in me as well as around me, and from me as well as towards me.

To listen is to enter that spatiality by which, at the same time, I am penetrated, for it opens up in me as well as around me, and from me as well as towards me: it opensme inside me as well as outside, and it is through such a double, quadruple, orsextuple opening that a 'self' can take place. To be listening is to be at the same time outside and inside, to be open from without and from within. '(Nancy 2007, p. 14)

is not just what the ears do. There are some things whereby you fail if you listen with your ears and, by listening with your eyes, you hear them.

isan then suggested that tozan visit ungan who tozan later succeeded. coming up to ungan, tozan asked, 'who can hear the sermons of insentient creatures'' 'insentient creatures can hear them,' answered ungan. 'why can i not hear them'' asked tozan. ungan raised his staff straight up and said, 'do you hear'' 'no, i don't,' answered tozan. ungan said, 'don't you know the sutra says, 'birds and trees, all meditate on the buddha and the dharma''' at this tozan suddenly became enlightened. he wrote the following verse: wonderful! how wonderful! sermons by insentient creatures... you fail if you listen with your ears... i repeat: you fail if you listen with your ears. listening with your eyes, you hear them. (Osho 'this, this, this' 28-29). By the eyes he does not mean the ordinary eyes, he means the eyes of an awakening clarity of your being. If you can hear in your silence, if you can see in your silence, then everything in the world is speaking, giving sermons, singing songs, dancing. (Osho 'this, this, this' 29)

is a thing some people can do so intently that they exhaust the speaker.

Lenin could listen so intently that he exhausted the speaker. Isaiah Berlin

 requires learning. One must learn how to listen as things speak for themselves.

Learn how to listen as things speak for themselves. Matsuo Basho

is at its worst in a man who does nothing but listen.

The worst of all listeners is the man who does nothing but listen. Charles Dickens

is to be valued, for nature has given us two ears but only one mouth.

Nature has given us two ears but only one mouth.

is a thing many a man wouldn't do if he didn't think it was his turn next.

Many a man wouldn't listen to your story if he didn't think it was his turn next.

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