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shame

is a borderline affect which allows us to forget that there is nothing behind the masks but other masks and thereby keeps us captured in the game of interpretation. It results in our acknowledging and at the same time denying that the life we construct for ourselves is a fiction. It allows us to keep the abyss at a distance in favor of life.

Shame then becomes a borderline affect located somewhere between forgetting and remembering, between not knowing and knowing, between nature and culture. Indeed it marks a threshold, but not as Socrates and the Cynics wished us to believe the threshold between truth and appearance, but the threshold which keeps us captured in the game of interpretation, which allows us to forget that there is nothing behind the masks but other masks. Shame is a screen masked as a veil... it is the screen upon which we perceive the shadows of life, the screen which makes us believe that truth and nature are located behind it. If we were to tear off the veil, we would see nothing, certainly not any kind of metaphysical Nature or Substance. So, shame results in acknowledging andat the same time denying that the life we construct for ourselves is a fiction. If Nietzsche thus advocates the honoring of shame, he also advocates our maintaining the fiction of a truth behind appearances... all the while being conscious of the fact that there is nothing. Or, in other words: He advocates keeping the abyss at a distance in favor of life.

is a feminine characteristic par excellence and has as its purpose concealment of genital deficiency.

According to Freud, shame is 'considered to be a feminine characteristic par excellence . . . [and] has as its purpose, we believe, concealment of genital deficiency' (1916-1917, 596).

is a mental dam against the aggressive instinct or the destructive passion for the real. Unlike guilt, shame does not seek to penetrate surfaces or tear away veils... rather, it seeks comfort in them, hides itself in them as in a safe haven.

in this context, that the antidote of shame which Lacan proposes also follows Nietzsche's leads, in addition to Freud's. Shame is, as Freud put it, a 'mental dam' against the 'aggressive instinct' or the destructive passion for the Real. Unlike guilt, shame does not seek to penetrate surfaces or tear away veils... rather, it seeks comfort in them, hides itself in them as in a safe haven. Our relationships to the surface change in shame, as compared to guilt... we become fascinated with its maze-like intricacies, its richness and profundity.

is a reaction-formation and a defense against excessive pleasure, against libidinous feelings.

For Freud, shame is a reaction-formation and a defense against excessive pleasure, against libidinous feelings. Silvan Tomkins talks about shame in that way in his book The Faces of Shame. . . .

Shame is a soul eating emotion. Carl Jung

is an evaluative statement by the self in relation to the self whereas guilt is an evaluative statement by the self in relation to an action one has committed. In shame we become the object as well as the subject of shame. In guilt the object is external to the self, since the focus of guilt is upon the action that does not meet certain cultural standards.

Shame is an evaluative statement by the self in relation to the self, and this distinguishes it from guilt, which is an evaluative statement by the self in relation to an action one has committed. And four, in shame we become the object as well as the subject of shame which imprisons the subject in the complete closure of the self-object circle. In guilt, by comparison, the self is the subject, but the object is external to the self, since the focus of guilt is upon the action that does not meet certain cultural standards. The fact that shame is a painful emotion that revolves around the status of self in the field of the social enables the subject to understand his or her own conditions of existence and possibly re-negotiate his or her relationship with the social anew.

is causally connected to sexual inhibitions and to certain forms of sexual perversion.

For Freud, shame is causally connected to sexual inhibitions and to certain forms of sexual perversion.

is connected to being seen and exposed inappropriately by others.

Ibid., p. 303. For many theorist. like for Sartre, the emotion of shame is connected to being seen and exposed inappropriately by others. However, no actual observer is necessary in order to feel shame, nor is it necessary that one believe that one is being observed by the Other. One may feel shame being alone alone and knowing this to be so. Instead, in shame. the subject shifts his or her viewpoint from that of the actor to that of the critical, detached observer, but so that the subject fulfills both of these functions. The subject both identifies With the observer and constitutes the observer. It is part of the complexity of shame that the exposure it implies refers to the Other but that Other is in the first instance oneself. To speak about the observer is thus to speak metaphorically, and being seen exposed is a sign of being at a disadvantage and suffering a loss of power: and that recognition of disadvantage and suffering is what is central to shame. For a discussion, see also Taylor, 1985: Williams, 1993... Lewis... 1995: Katz. 1999.

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