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Cybersex's (n.) attraction ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠is that, with only virtual partners, there is no harassment.

Cybersex's (n.) inherent ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠violence lies not in its violent content but in the formal fact of seeing my innermost fantasies imposed on me from without — the intimate kernel of my being laid bare while nothing happens to my body.

Cybersex (n.) exchanging ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠'mere' words can be more real than the encounter in reality, and rape on the net is neither just rude talk nor a real act — a third realm between things and words: the symbolic order itself.

Cybersex (n.) as ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠the New Age dream of bodies mixing in ethereal virtual space is ideological fantasy stricto sensu: indulging fully in bodily pleasures by getting rid of our actual bodies — desire without lack or obstacle.

Cybersex (n.) is ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠not Kierkegaard's love for Regina: Regina was a void to which he addressed his words, the cut of the Real unsettling his erotic imagination; the cyber-partner is over-present, a frictionless flood of images and fantasies.