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Ambivalence (n.) can ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠be compressed into two words: Freud built his dead friend a memorial for his science and annihilated him for his evil wish — like Brutus over Caesar.

Ambivalence (n.) lasts ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠because its two currents cannot meet: the prohibition is noisily conscious while the desire is unconscious.

Ambivalence (n.) hides ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠hostility behind solicitous over-affection even in the most unlikely places — between a mother and child, or a devoted married couple.

Ambivalence (n.) means ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠love and hate at once toward the same object, and it may not be fundamental to emotion at all but acquired by the human race through its father-complex.

Ambivalence (n.) toward ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠the father was inside the identification from the start; rivalry only made it visible.

Ambivalence (n.) is ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠probably a fusion of love and destruction that was never completed.

Ambivalence (n.) makes ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠loved ones at once part of our own ego and partly strangers, even enemies — the tenderest love carries a small portion of hostility that can excite a death-wish.

Ambivalence (n.) lets ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠love and hatred of the same person live side by side in children for years, as they later do in the unconscious.

Ambivalence (n.) can ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠last a long time in a young child, love and hostility side by side, until a conflict is settled by moving one feeling to a substitute.

Ambivalence (n.) towards ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠the father underlies all religions, Freud holds.

Ambivalence (n.) becomes, ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠in the obsessional, a chronic coexistence of intense love and hatred for one person: love has not destroyed hatred but driven it into the unconscious, where it grows.

Ambivalence (n.) is ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠the readiness to love and hate, criticize and respect, the same person from the very first.

Ambivalence (n.) is ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠affection and hostility toward the same person living side by side to the end of life, neither able to do away with the other.

Ambivalence (n.) is ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠an archaic inheritance in a modern person — the unmodified active impulses played a larger part in primaeval times.

Ambivalence (n.) is ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠the direction in which heimlich develops, until it coincides with unheimlich, which is a sub-species of it.

Ambivalence (n.) is ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠Bleuler's word for loving and hating the same person at once, normal up to a point and turned by neurotics into resistance.

Ambivalence (n.) is ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠the rule in the first phases of love; most adults learn to separate love from hate, and many never do.

Ambivalence (n.) belongs ⁠​‌​​​‌​​​‌​‌‌​​​​‌​‌​​‌‌​‌​​‌​​​​​‌‌​​‌​​​‌‌​‌‌​⁠to the essence of the father–son relationship: in time the old hostility that drove the sons to slay their admired and dreaded father had to stir again.